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How My Relationship Changed For the Better After I Came Out
It wasn’t as hard as I thought it’d be, and I have him to thank for that.
When I was about to come out as Transgender Nonbinary to my boyfriend now fiance in 2017 I was very wary. He is sensitive to topics of self and identity and has supported me in all of my endeavors. But I had heard so many stories about couples breaking up because one of them came out as trans, usually because the cisgender person is very protective of their straight orientation and then suddenly doesn’t love the trans person anymore because they are not the cisgender girl or guy that the partner thought. And to me, those stories were heartbreaking and I dreaded the possibility that Tyler could just suddenly stop loving me because I’m not a cisgender person.
How our relationship came into existence is just as cheesy as we are. When I was 17 and still in my junior year of high school, he was 19 and had just graduated high school. I actually met him on Tumblr. I liked his sappy and depressing poetry because we were all ‘deep’ like that and I decided to spread some love that day. So I messaged him and told him that I liked his poetry…
